Caring for a parent with dementia can be deeply rewarding. It offers a chance to build and maintain unique relationships with loved ones and provide love and support during challenging times.
However, if your parent has dementia, they may require specialized care, such as memory care, to receive the support they need to lead a fulfilling life.
Moving a parent with dementia to memory care can encompass the following:
- Preparing for the move to memory care
- Coping strategies to manage emotions
- Helping a parent settle in memory care
- Life after the move to memory care
Understanding Dementia & Its Progression
Dementia is a broad term describing a decline in cognitive function severe enough to interfere with daily life. It isn’t a normal part of aging but can impact memory, thinking, and social abilities. It usually affects those 65 and older. There are several types of dementia, with the most common being Alzheimer’s disease.
Memory loss is often the first noticeable sign, but dementia also affects behavior, leading to confusion, agitation, and even aggression. Over time, dementia can lead to difficulties with everyday activities, such as getting dressed or eating.
Signs It’s Time to Consider Memory Care
Deciding when to transition a loved one with dementia to memory care can be a difficult decision. However, certain signs may indicate that specialized care is necessary.
Safety concerns:
- Frequent wandering
- Forgetting essential tasks (turning off appliances or locking doors)
- Dangerous behavior
Increased confusion and disorientation are also signs of dementia. When a parent can no longer recognize faces or get lost in familiar surroundings, it signals a need for supervision and support. Additionally, if caregiving affects well-being and leads to burnout, professional memory care can provide the relief you need.
How to Move a Parent Into Memory Care
Preparing for the Move to Memory Care
Planning and preparing to move a parent to memory care involves the legal aspects of senior care:
- Power of attorney: Appoint a trusted individual to make financial decisions on your parent’s behalf.
- Healthcare proxy: Designate someone to make healthcare decisions if your parent cannot.
Financial planning is equally important:
- Cost analysis: Research the costs of memory care in your area, including monthly fees, room and board, and additional services.
- Insurance coverage: Explore options like long-term care insurance, veterans’ benefits, and Medicaid to help cover the costs.
Research different communities
- Identify senior communities in your desired area that offer memory care services.
- Schedule tours to assess the physical environment, amenities, and overall atmosphere.
- Inquire about the qualifications and experience of the caregiving staff.
- Ask about security protocols, emergency procedures, and the facility’s commitment to resident safety.
By addressing these critical areas, you can ensure a smoother transition for your parent and peace of mind for yourself.
Navigating the Emotional Journey
The decision to move a loved one into memory care can be emotionally challenging. It’s natural to experience feelings of guilt, sadness, or even relief. Remember, this decision is ultimately about providing your parent with the best possible care and support.
- Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions.
- Connect with support groups or a therapist for guidance and understanding.
- Visit and call your parent regularly to reinforce your love and support.
By acknowledging your emotions and seeking support, you can navigate this difficult transition with greater resilience and compassion.
Help Your Parent Settle In Memory Care
A smooth transition requires your active involvement in helping your parent adjust to their new environment:
- Learn about the community’s routines, policies, and amenities.
- Bring familiar items from home to create a comfortable and personalized space.
- Spend quality time with your parent during the initial adjustment period.
- Participate in activities your parent enjoys to help them feel more at home.
- Introduce your parent to staff members and other residents to foster connections.
- Develop a strong rapport with the caregiving staff to ensure personalized care and attention.
By actively participating in your parent’s transition, you can help them feel more comfortable and settled in their new home.
Life After the Move to Memory Care
Moving a loved one to memory care can be a significant adjustment, but it’s important to remember that a fulfilling relationship can continue:
- Make time for frequent visits to see your parent and spend quality time together.
- Maintain regular contact through phone calls, video chats, or letters.
- Encourage family members to visit and participate in community events.
- Keep the caregiving staff informed about your parent’s preferences, routines, and any changes in their condition.
- Consider joining a support group for caregivers of individuals with dementia to connect with others who understand your experiences.
You can help your loved one thrive in their new environment by maintaining a strong connection and providing ongoing support.
Transition to Personalized Memory Care
You’re not alone in this journey. Remember, there are resources available to support you. Don’t hesitate to reach out to family members, friends, or professionals for guidance and encouragement.
Find personalized memory care and a warm, supportive environment at Somerby Santa Rosa Beach. Our dedicated team can help you navigate this transition with confidence and compassion. Call us today to learn more and schedule a visit to our community.
